yes it has been ages since you updated - so it's good to hear from you:)
As that approaches, a lot of feelings are coming up. And hopes. And we all know that it's a slippery slope into expectations. Ugh.
september is a few weeks away - i think that coming over and setting some personal goals for yourself and VERY specific ones for the r, would do you a lot of good. especially the r ones. because then youcan focus just on those, and there will be less liklihood that you will go down that slippery slope.
besides you will help me out too because 1. i get to practice and 2. i'll make some along with you that are very specific
we can work on what your expectations could be when she's here, and then you cold stick only to those. and also lay out very concretely what your actions will be for different circumstances so you feel that you are on sure ground when the time comes
as for having mantras in place - even though you can't sticky them all over the house,- you can sticky them all over your mind.
Maybe that old standby, "I'm sorry you feel that way." I guess it would work to tell myself that, too.
stubborn - i know you were sort of joking in a self-deprecating way, but after the third time i read that - i thought - that's brilliant - it's actually very very self-validating!!
i'm going to try that on myself, next time i feel like shite . so thanks for this!!
(((((( )))))) ^^^ this is a feel better hug
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"if i could define enlightenment briefly, i would say it is the quiet acceptance of what is"
because 1. i get to practice and 2. i'll make some along with you that are very specific
. so thanks for this!!