to me it seemed that it surprised him that i would consider and acknowledge his efforts.
maybe if i explain. we paid the mortgage together for 6 yrs on our first house, both of us working our butts off, contributing equally. then we fell on hard time 9both of us artists) and to help us out so we wouldn't have that payment, my parents gave us a chunk of money to pay off the house.
after 2 yrs, we moved back to town and bought another house after selling ours that was a bit more expensive and his parents put in x amount to help us buy it. he only wants that x amount back and is completely dismissing what he put into the first house for 6 yrs - let alone all the repairs he did, as well as spending 4 months building the most amazing studio for us to work in
my acknowledging his effort, is important to me. i do realize that i will be "worse off" than him financially because of the statistics. but in reality, am I? who says i won't land up making more money than him eventually? it's not out of the realm of possibility
he talked for a bit about how he wanted to make sure that both he and i were able to live about the same as we had been and that neither of us would be struggling. i know that most LBS's are fighting like hell to get some semblance of equality in their settlements, but unless i'm blindly trusting here (which i have been known to do ) i'm not seeing him grabbing for anything here.
in fact what i'm seeing is him saying take pretty much everything.
i need to do some more research on this - i can't figure out if my stance is from not knowing anything and just going with believing that he is a good guy, or because it really is true
will you explain more about why you write that- so i can understand what it is i even have to consider, please
thanks zig
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"if i could define enlightenment briefly, i would say it is the quiet acceptance of what is"
) i'm not seeing him grabbing for anything here.