To Lovingly Detach

[Arsene]

Thanks 25. I see your point about offering W a warm loving home, making W "want" to be with me as opposed to making her feel guilty/punishing her so that eventually, she just won't want to be around.

You were also right the other day about my ego being wounded and I have to remind myself whether I want to be right or married. The answer is I do want to be married and being right is not so important anymore.

Re: the maid, we don't have a home yet but as soon as we do (me and D8) I will be hiring one. In fact, we'll be moving in at the end of the month and I'm hoping to get the lady who was around when D8 was between 3 and 5. There is a bond between them and that would be good for D8. Besides, my W approves of her and I think that it is important since once I start working, the maid will spend a lot of time with D8 (and W when she is around).

BTW, I understand what you said about venting. Sometimes I re-read my thread and am ashamed of what i wrote and how I felt about W. Do not worry, I will not end up in the metaphoric drain.

I'm learning, step by step. Thanks for your patience and understanding 25. I really appreciate it.