Alien Invasion Pt 2

[reachingHigher]

Live it! GALbaby! Love it!!!

[GALbaby]

Must have been a little quiet today..H asked me if I was OK because I didn't seem myself!!!!! I showed a lot of self-control because I told him a was fine, but what I really wanted to say was I married a F@@@wit, I just lost my job, I'm suffering depression, my S25 lives in my house and abuses me whenever he can, I'm stuck in the downstairs bedroom, I live in limboland thanks to you...yeah my life is great.

Just venting, I know this will pass.

[reachingHigher]

Oh no! It's not funny what's happening to you but the way you wrote it I had to laugh! Was I supposed to?

Well Gal...I really like you very, very much! I wish you could have gone to the dance studio last week with me too! You mentioned looking for one in your area? Is that a possibility? It was such a blast! And all proper and everything.

I didn't realize there were issues with S25. That's rough. My boys can put me in tears lately just by complaining about every day things.

I'm so sorry. But glad you can vent here!

[GALbaby]

That's ok RH I'm laughing too...afterall only a fool would do this to such a fine person as myself. That says it all. Btw I have just signed up for 10 dance lessons....so here I come. Can't wait.

[reachingHigher]

Oh, I'm so excited! Awesome about the dance lessons! I can't wait to hear about it! When does the first one start?

I have to tell you the first time I danced in these lessons with a man -- I was super uncomfortable. But when I went to the dance studio group lesson and following party, my discomfort disappeared and there were a few moments I actually enjoyed it while not thinking "slow, slow fast, fast, rock step", etc. I almost felt guilty for having such a nice time.

And strangely enough, the man I danced with the most, we really clicked, was a 27 year old student at the same university where son S19 will be attending! He was such a fine young man! A 4.0 premed student and he gave me some pointers for school work for S19. I probably didn't think at all about H (except as he's a part of my life) for several hours! Which was very fun!

[GALbaby]

Needing some advice please. H caught me crying this morning. I've had a tough few weeks and things were getting to me. I told him I won't talk about it. He kept pursuing me. He asked if it was something he has done!!!!!! OMG I can't believe he had to ask that. I said no. I will be ok ..just having a bad day. H knows about my own depressive issues which I've struggled with for years. I arranged to meet a friend just to clear my head and get out. He kept pursuing me

When he asked again what's wrong ..I said..I can't believe you even have to ask. I'm just speechless. I've lost my job, my marriage, my s25 is an a$$$hole. My other two kids D19 and S18 are suffering, my anxiety levels are at a point I have ongoing heart palpitations aow need tests done.

I've got an appt to speak with DB coach in two days. I'm thinking about giving up this fight. That hats brought on these current strong emotions.

Hopefully I can go back home and go back to being civil. Have I backslid. What should I do now?

[Takevowsserious]

Dearest Gal,

I wish I could do a I Dream Of Genie and magically transport myself over to you!

I understand how you feel, I've been there. I'm guessing pretty much we all have at some point.

My H and I had a huge fight back in the beginning of march when I found a pic of him and OW (obviously before I found out about no snooping!) This went on for 2 days. During that time, the stress level was so high I didn't eat or sleep.

I got up the next morning and lost it. I told my H I wasn't going to work that day as I cried uncontrollably. He asked me what was wrong... Duh!!! Sound familiar??? I told him I hadn't slept or eaten in days, and that I was stressed. He asked what else I was stressed about besides our sitch, and I said "nothing!"

They can be truly f-ing clueless.

You are only human Gal, and when you live with the MLCer, it is extremely hard to hold it together all the time. I know we're not supposed to cry in front of them, and as a general rule, I agree. Besides BD (in which H showed NO sympathy) he has been very kind to me the few times I have cried. Everyone and their sitch's are different, but for me, it did not do any damage for my H to see me hurting and know that I have my breaking point too.

I know how low you feel, but don't give up! Unless you calm down, give it a day or two, and decide that you are truly done. I have a feeling you're not

When you go home, maybe just tell H that you have a lot on your mind, and you really don't feel like talking tonight (unless you do). Just because he wants to talk, doesn't mean you have to. This should be on YOUR terms!

I'm here for you Gal, so please post on what happens. Thinking of you and sending hugs and peace your way.

[reachingHigher]

Oh, Baby! I'm so sorry. I don't have advice.

Just didn't want you to think your cries were going into thin air. Sometimes I wonder, does anyone really know what works? Our sitches are all the same yet they are all so different.

My H and I connected powerfully yesterday so I expected not to hear from him today. So it still made me sad, so I'm cleaning the bathroom throughly from top to bottom, with some cheery music. He did end up trying to call a little bit ago but I didn't hear the phone. Getting my mind off it doing something productive seems to help.

GB -- so many issues for you. Each one serious. I just don't know. I just want things to be fixed for you. Maybe a wise person can help you. I can only imagine your grief. I'm so sorry.

[GALbaby]

Thanks you guys, I don't really have anyone else visit my thread so I appreciate your friendship, it means so much to me. I will keep you posted.

[Takevowsserious]

We're here for you Gal, so don't feel that you are ever alone.

Hope you have a better day today