Remember... anger is AN emotion stemming from fear. If you are in the convo with your H and you feel anger... go to where the fear is and express that... and if you cry, that's OK...
work through it. You've proven you can.
And... if HE projects...?
Let him know that you are looking for a constructive convo and not a fault blaming convo and will leave if he doesn't keep himself in check.
You know your coach is right, of course... if he switches to the fast train, let it run... or it will run over you... and remember, it will likely run right off the tracks...
