I guess it was time for me to find a new thread. Hopefully everyone has had a good weekend. Mine has been pretty full and as I wind down a Sunday night my thoughts are that I still hope for the opportunity one day to work on a relationship with my wife, but its beyond obvious right now that if that is to happen its probably a long way off. As i've stated on here before I really don't know if my wife is involved with OM, or if she is MLC, or simply a WAW for other reasons, but what I do know is that shes probably better DBing than I am and that she certainly seems better at going dark or NC than I am.
We really haven't had ANY contact in 2 weeks now that wasn't directly related to S11. I was happy that SS16 sent me a text last night thanking me for some shoes and clothes that I bought him and sent with my W last week. I don't think I ever wrote about this, but my father is pretty old and has a few health issues and because my W is an RN my mom often calls or texts her to ask questions. Well on Friday nigt/Saturday morning he had a slight episode that concerned my mother so she talked to my W and asked her a few questions about what she should do....anyway last night around 9:00 someone knocked and it was SS16 dropping off some shoes for S11 that he couldnt find yesterday afternoon and while he was standing at the door he thanked me again for the shoes etc... and said that my W wanted to know how my dad was feeling and if he was better.....the absurd part of this entire thing...she was sitting in the driveway in her car not more than 30 feet away but wouldnt get out and ask the question herself. Absolutely absurd, but im not interested in being petty or childish so I said nothing about it and just told him that everything was fine and thanks for asking.
Honestly its probably a benefit to me that she's being so adamant about not speaking to me b/c I think it would be so much harder to be dark with her if she were trying to reach out to me. We had a very brief text exchange today that was completely about S11 and school starting tomorrow. He decided he wanted to stay here with me tonight and me take him to the first day of school tomorrow and I dont think she liked the idea much. She was originally worried about him not having paper/pencils but I told her that he and I had stopped and got some stuff etc.. she finally texted that it sounded like he should be set then and I didnt respond b/c I saw no reason to, thats just the extent of how we communicate currently and its been that way for a while now.
I know each situation is different but does anyone know of any WAW situations with similarities? She's not angry, not picking fights, not moving toward D.....im honestly kind of lost right now as to whats going and even have had friends who have spoken with her who say she doesn't seem angry.
