Yes Cadet- I have to remember that every minute of my day or I can easily get caught in his spokes.
KD wrote - "A MLCer's underlying motivation is what they feel is their very survival". These are words to live by, burn into my memory. These words help me when he's being narcissistic, alone, even angry, because I then don't react understanding that he is feeling his way for himself.
The past can't be ahead of you in the future. You don't have to figure it all out, just pick a direction. What's next...I don't know but I can't wait!