My W isn't so much mean towards the kids, she's just incapable of hearing them. She knows she made the right decision because she has the freedom to explore her personal needs. After all, if she feels good about the decision, the kids will see it her way in no time flat. And being MLC, she's a bit immature right now so it's all about what she wants. S12 has made it very clear that that's exactly what he sees in his mom and I agreed with him and his observation.
I get that she doesn't want to come back to a "structured" life of rules and responsibilities. The fact of the matter is is that it "seems" it's only after the MLC-er realizes that that reality hasn't changed, only its surroundings, that's when they begin to question their decision process and the decisions they've made.
She's out of prison now, but she doesn't even realize she's checked into a new one. My belief in my situation is that by just leaving her be to do as she deems fitting, she will come to see what it is she left behind. When the honeymoon wears off and she can't understand/remember why she's still angry, only that I've done little or nothing to feed it, she will see her kids again.
That's where I see her leaving MLC eventually. The kids. When reality catches up to her and she sees the kids, they will be the first to show/tell her. It won't be me and I may very well have moved on in my own right. But I will not be the one that she sees when she opens her eyes and ears. The journey will be hard on her and she and I will not see each other unless she's paid her dues to her children and perhaps to her family too.
This is the feeling I can't shake and I probably place more blame on it than I should for not being able to detach.
