Oh geez, I've rustled KD from his hibernation! I must be sounding really lost.
There were a few that I wanted to post to, you got top ranking... lucky you...
Of course, do realize that it IS ok to change your mind... if and when you choose... sometimes people focus on the goal... rather than the journey... and so don't think or consider the value of adjusting course...
That being said, your doing stuff because it benefits you... that's not co-d. Like... it's just not...
You might be scared to get caught in co-d behaviour, which is why it's good that you are considering it.
You CAN find that balance between removing any intent to harm and walking on eggshells and appeasing your H...
Detach... more...
And then you move forward with YOU as the focus, yet not move forward with some sense of entitlement or deservedness.
