After 18 months - H is finally filing.

[~ kd ~]

Hey KG, it's good to read you here. And good to see you posting to and supporting other members. You've got your head on straight and it really shows.

I wanted to echo 25's words above:

Most LBSers change their "commitment to work on themselves" approach the minute they hear of OPs.

Suddenly the LBSer only recalls that the "marriage was pretty good UNTIL EVIL OW", and it's sometimes just a lie.

But many tell themselves that, and the "affair" becomes their sole focus. YOU did not do that, and you still don't and

I applaud that candor and constant self monitoring. You kept the focus on your own personal work. Amazing.

It IS easy to loose sight of the A being a symptom of an underlying problem and therefore focusing on the OP rather than our own betterment in order to be a better option... or more specifically... to be a person that only a fool would leave...

Keep up the great work, KG!