This morning, my friend had to cancel the Idul Fitri celebration I was to attend so I let W know that she could come here earlier (she'd asked me to let her know what time we'd be back home).
After my meditaiton lesson, W texted me to say she would be home in about an hour. I have to admit that the thought of being with her here all day (I had nowhere to go) didn't appeal to me so i thought about doing something as a family for this holiday. I checked to see if the local "waterpark" was open and then texted W to tell her that I was thinking about taking D8 there and that she was welcome to tag along. She quickly replied that it was a great idea and that she would love to go but that it was too expensive. I told her that D8 really wanted to go and that it was my treat. She accepted.
I picked her up and we had lunch on the way (her treat)and ended up having a great time together. I'll skip through the details but suffice to say that we had no R talk, that I was all ears, we had pleasant light convos and had a lot of fun with D8.
As we drove through the city n our way there, she/we often reminisced about our past as we saw features which were parts of our past life.
Although we had fun throughout the day, I noticed that W often seemed pensive and sad (D8 also mentioned it). She even asked me why we hadn't been there before and I told her that it's probably because I used to hate driving through the city and going to crowded places and because I was so worried about money. She acknowledged silently.
She commented a few times on how great i now looked ( I have lost 15 KG in the last 3 months and my 180s (4-5 times a week at the pool doing laps for 45 minutes and daily exercises) have helped a lot. She also commented on my calmness in traffic.
At the end of the day, we went back home and I thanked her for coming along. I told her that I thought D8 had enjoyed it a lot. W said that she had also had a great time and thanked me for inviting her. I reciprocated that I had enjoyed it as well.
Soon after coming back home, I left to go out with friends. She looked a bit surprised to see me go but we parted in a friendly way.
Later in the evening, she text me to say that she had found a small book I had received from my meditation lessons, saying she had started to read it and thought it interesting. She asked if she could borrow it and I agreed. This is the second time she shows interest in these meditation lessons. I would love her to give it a try. For me it was a good way to figure out a lot of stuff about myself. I won't tell her that though. I hope that she can come to that conclusion by herself.
I know many of you might disagree with what I did today but for me, it was an opportunity to show her what she was missing and how, we are there for her, while OM can't always be. She hadn't had a chance to have this type of family interaction since I left for my country three months ago. Now it's something for her to thing about.
I believe she was happy to be with us on this holiday. I felt good about it as well and although I might be told I'm pursuing, and you may be right, I still think it was the right thing to do. Once, a long time ago, after having recently moved to a new town, I was invited by strangers to spend Christmas eve with them and I'll never forget that. If strangers can do this , I should do at least the same with the woman I love.
Freshman Class of 2012
M-49 W-42 1D-10 T 10 YEARS M 9 YEARS EA/MLC 07/2010 Separation 28/05/2012 PA confirmed 31/07/12 W Asked for D 31/07/12 D on and off the table since then
