My question is if I do all the work, which was the pattern before, how does that change anything in our dynamic? Since I 180'd on not cleaning the kitchen nearly as much after BD, he picked up the slack on that.
Just a quick note on this ^^^^
Based on your BOOTCAMP thread and some other affirmations / commitments you've stated, the above is no longer relevant.
You may continue to DB for yourself. WHAT you do, HOW you do it, WHEN you do it, etc... no longer has anything to do with your H.
Your choice to move on appears to be conflicting with your want to change the dynamic with your H. You appear stuck. Your focus is on your H and your M rather than on you and your future. Move on, move forward, and do what you need to that will help you reach your goal.
