But once again this defies logic. I guess Im in black and white. If they wanted to leave, and chose to walk, then why can't they just be gone?
I would think that they would have enough sense to see what they had done and that changes the LBS life significantly, allowing them the freedom to make the same choices the WAS did in the first place!
Perhaps a level of emotional maturity is needed in order to execute a nice divorce in a mature manner. I just think that if you're not going to be with someone, then respect the other enough to not meddle in their lives. If you know you hurt that other person, but are firm this is what you need to do, then don't harass them or act as if you still have feelings for them. Give them the dignity to grieve on their own and leave them alone!This is not high school!
Honestly when I was in High School, I was seeing a guy that was basically Mr. Unavailable, and I was fall back girl. I got tired of it, and I then met my now XH. When I was off living my life with him, Mr. Unavailable started to pursue me! Man that made me mad. He didn't persist too long, but believe me when I was no longer fallback girl, he noticed.
This seems to be what happens with the WAS/LBS dynamic. Honestly I think it's a good dose of healthy reality for the WAS to become the LBS so they can come full circle for once!
