Still Vera

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Vera,

I had not posted to you before, but have read your threads. You are doing so great with your GAL and living for yourself, it's amazing to hear.
You also seem to have such a calm demeanor in the face of everything you are going through with your H.
Amazing!

You asked about how to answer re. the list.

I understand the thinking behind wanting him to work on it. But the most important one now is you. So I ask you:
Are you in a hurry to get the stuff separated?
Would that benefit you?

If so, then I'd say go ahead and make a "shareable" version of your personal list and set up a time to go over it with H.

If you are in no hurry, then do absolutely nothing. But remember that your H may take a long time to get going - you cannot control that.

I will continue following your sitch. You are doing great and dealing with some really difficult stuff. I feel for you - In the last year I have had to do a lot of this ugly "administrative" and housekeeping things with H to separate our lives and it's emotionally draining.

Take care.

(((vera)))