if i were totally honest i would say i may be tryings to procrastinate and slow down the process by being "inactive"
and i'm trying to figure out if that's me just not wanting to face what i have to - like this conversation or that i'm simply trying to slow down the process
Either way it gives you the gift of time that Cadet is find of mentioning. I get what you're saying about procrastinating. In my opinion, you would only be procrastinating if there were something active that you were purposefully not doing, such as not responding to the D complaint or not providing discovery information. You're not there yet. For now it is good to stand still. I don't think Pema would say that is procrastinating
So how about some short term goals re getting your ducks in a row... Finding a few Ls to call, having a list of your individual and joint assets and liabilities if you don't already, recent tax returns, things that you think will or could be issues w your H. Those are things you could do to face what you have to do w/o actively moving toward D. You can take steps to protect yourself and arm yourself with info w/o.necessarily moving that process along. Knowledge is power
Get some rest tonight dear zig, maybe a nightcap and some stretching to help you get relaxed
