and that brings me of course to what i am facing within myself - how i avoid painful things , or things i don't want to do by putting the responsibility on someone else.
one could say it's different here - h is the one who wants this, but to tell the truth, if i agree to co-operate, then i should be doing my part.
I do think there is a difference between not wanting to be an avoider and taking on the work of doing the D. Are you DONE done? If your answer is no as I grieve it is
