Yes the poor kids always seem to get caught up in the storm!
In my state all divorcing couples that have children are required to watch a parenting class and the effects our behaviors have on children.
Though I generally knew the basics, that class really opened my eyes.
Infact I had a throught that such a class should be *required* before even filing for divorce. A big thing that was discussed in the class is when OP are introduced. The person that led the class was a family counselor. She said when the OP gets in the picture that's when EVERYTHING goes nutts.
And it's true. When Ow got shoved into the family by XH all hell broke loose.
Another thing is true. You think once you're divorced all the dust will settle, things will get back into a predictable groove and you can go on with your life with out anymore issues.
I think it actually gets worse. In so many cases the WAS seems to cause so much trouble for the LBS, especially when the LBS really is moving on with their life. It really does seem that whether or not they take up with another, live alone or marry another, they still seem to think the LBS is their fallback!
