New to 180.. Any advice to make it work?

[rubysgem]

He says things like "I care about you"... In June, he was telling me how much he loves me. I want to say she is influencing him but he has just as much fault as she does and for all I know he's giving her false hope too and trying to keep both doors open. I am willing to bet she does not know he's in touch with me. They are no longer a "secret" and he spends nights there too. That is what sent me over the edge. That is beyond disrespectful. We are married and for him to think this is ok not only is stunning but this is not him... apparently it is but you know what I mean...

So later that night he texted me again, hmm, only a few dark hours and already a change... but I know it's nothing to get excited about. He said he was with his friends and could text me back,... the word "could" caught my eye. This set me off. I am your wife and you need "permission" to talk to me. Enough is enough now. So I said, A skank is a woman who will take what ever crumbs a man throws her way. She doesn't mind sneaking and hiding and being deceitful. A real woman won't play that game. I am a real woman. I have self-respect and class which is why you married me. No response. He never has one. He was supposed to call the next day so we could talk about our marriage and if we had anything left to save. I don't bother anymore, he's been "going to call" since July 4th. Then he texted me good night. For some reason these "good night" texts mean something to him. I think it's control. He thinks HE will control this and until now he did. More to come...