Thinking about it more I don't want to chase her away by trying to jump start a conversation. I will just hold what I've got and hope that by being around each other more she might open up.
Keep doing your 180s, GAL etc. And don't worry so much about doing these things to "get her to open up". Just do them, and you'll feel better and be a better person. A person she'll probably want to open up around!
Originally Posted By: mshaf
I know it hasn't been very long, but I am wondering if she might be second guessing the D. She hasn't mentioned anything about it since the last talk. In that time I have been spending more time with the kids and taking some pressure off her being a newly single mom.
Maybe she sees this as an improvement in my behavior.
Maybe she's second guessing, maybe she's not... It's best to NOT try to figure out what she's thinking, as it will drive you CRAZY (and by the way, I say this and have a VERY hard time following my own advice... as you can read in my sitch).
And as far as her seeing an improvement... Remember you're doing this FOR YOU and your KIDS, not for W!!! You're becoming a better person, a better dad, and will keep these changes going no matter what! This is so important, as if you're only doing the change-thing so your wife will notice, you're not getting the point.
Originally Posted By: mshaf
I don't think we would have ended up in this sitch if I would have just been a moderately better person. So now I plan on being the best person possible and seeing if that changes the dynamic.
Being the best person you can be is the best gift you can give yourself right now. I hope it changes the dynamic, but either way, it's important to your sanity to keep on that path, even if it doesn't change the dynamic or seems to make things worse.
And please let me know what you think of 5LL. I'm thinking about picking that up myself!
