I was looking for your thread after reading your post on the infideility thread. I am glad you are back. Yes I can imagine a break is sometimes needed, but the support is indeed a lifeline.
I feel very connected to you and your sitch for some reason.
I am no expert or vet or anything, but you say that H left over a year ago? Would that be shortly after the birth of your S? I don't know...younsaid that you didn't think he was going through any doubt, confusion, selfishness, etc...yet IMHO, leaving shortly after the birth of a child seems selfish and confused. Maybe the reality of what was happening in his M, being a family, father, financial responsibility, etc....scared him?....
Because when I read your sitch I got the feeling that you have put a lot of blame on yourself. And that is not fair.
He says because of OW your R with him is better? BS. Your R with him is better because of you. Because of all the hard work you are doing for your family.
Imagine what kind of woman OW would be in his eyes if she did not encourage him to be friendly and amicable with you and the kids. Come on. ( sorry that hit a raw spot for me because my H's OW also said 'oh you should give your M another chance..I would never want to be the cause of your split...blah blah, and also how she support him to give 100percent to his children....)
It seems if you don't want the D then you should not help facilitate it. But again, better to get answers from those with more experience.
I am with you KG and am glad you are back. You are stronger than you think, a wonderful woman and mother.
Take care, busting (((( )))
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home
