keep going - i am glad you have come back on the boards to get support and advice. there are lots of good wise people here that can help you through this part of your process.

have you discussed with your DB coach about ow and the kids and your boundaries on that and h not agreeing? what is the coach's advice on that?

also did i understand correctly that you are going to retain the same L as your h?

have you asked h why he is not following the set formulas in your state, and if so what was his answer?

also do you know whether if he doesn't follow the set formulas whether the court would accept those conditions? are they just suggestions, or are they mandatory?

but most importantly, during these difficult times for you, what are you doing for yourself so that you can keep yourself grounded and in a good place? i'd love to hear more about that smile

zig

me 46 H 38
M10yrs T 11
S10
BD ow 8/11
h filed 9/25/12


"if i could define enlightenment briefly, i would say it is the quiet acceptance of what is"