Hi Alka and 25,

I see what you mean about the "size" of my goals. However, there are only 3 goals listed there, the rest is how I can spot improvements towards the goals, the baby steps mentioned at the top of page 86. I guess the goals listed as 1, 2 and 3 are the ultimate goals and the items listed bellow them are the "doable signposts of change towards the ultimate goal". Maybe I'm getting this part wrong. I'll read it over again and try to reformulate my goals to be more achievable for now.

Thanks for your input. Any thoughts about the recent development and conflict over D8? I'm thinking about going dark/dim on W and as a 180, simply not interfere with/talk about her interaction with D8 in any way. Let's face it, there is really nothing I can do anyway and when I voice my disagreement, she goes defensive and this creates more negative feelings between us. Just an interesting thing though, last night, she asked me to let her know when me and D8 would go to the pool and said she might join us sometime. Should I? In my present frame of mind, I don't think so but... ???


Freshman Class of 2012

M-49
W-42
1D-10
T 10 YEARS
M 9 YEARS
EA/MLC 07/2010
Separation 28/05/2012
PA confirmed 31/07/12
W Asked for D 31/07/12
D on and off the table since then