Suppo: Just caught up with your thread. Im with Denver i'd drag my feet all I could about the papers, I know if mine follows through with filing next month i'll be dragging it out as long as possible. I know from my conversations with a lawyer friend that I have 30 days to respond to the filing and then can drag this thing out a total of 18 months, id rather risk making mine real mad and buying myself time than granting the divorce to try to keep her from being upset with me and then going on the hope that we could reconcile after the D.
Anyway, i'll be keeping up with you...so far I think you're doing a good job, at least since the late June date you mention when you quit pursuing and begging and started Dbing.
I will add that at the very least you should call an attorney in your state. Most will give you a few minutes on the phone or an initial consultation for free and you need to make sure that those papers are what you think they are, just a draft or something. In my state I dont know that they would have to have a file or claim # stamped on them or not, but if they are official papers then her handing them to you constitutes you being served and there could be a clock ticking that you don't know about so just give someone a call to be sure.
