MrsD: So sorry to hear he's becoming that. I think its pretty common....I can assure you that my wife has become everything she said that I was selfish, controlling, judgemental and angry. Even more than that, in relation to SS16 she's much more interested in being bff's with him than in being his mom. We used to comment on how many people we knew that were so dang worried about their kids liking them that they forgot to be a parent and then were surprised when their kids screwed up or got into trouble and now thats exactly what she is.
I wouldnt say all wake up one day, but im sure that most do, just have to pray that ours are in that most group.
Its interesting you mentioning you switching roles b/c the last time my W and I seperated thats one of the things that brought us back together, we were talking on the phone one day and I told her what a shame it was that we were going to end up divorced due to bad timing and she asked me what that meant. I told her that 6 months before she had asked me to go see a MC with her and I blew it off and refused, and now I was begging her to go see a MC with me and she was refusing so realistically the only reason we were going to divorce is because we wanted to see a MC at different times.
I know you and your H are in the same boat...you walked away, he wanted you back, then he walked away etc....its timing. My prayers are that you both end up on the same page at the same time and can really heal and have a wonderful relationship, your doing the groundwork now to make it possible so just keep working that way.
