I may have lost her for good over the last couple of days. I'm going to do everything I possibly can to make sure I don't lose my precious little girls along with her.
FNM,
I know all seems hopeless right now, but my wife told me pretty much EXACTLY the same thing. I'm not quite sure why it is when a man fights for custody -- even shared custody -- it constitutes "taking my kids from me!" shrieks from the mother, but I told her calmly that there was no way I was going to NOT fight for them and furthermore (since she was in an unrepentant affair at the time, and leaving our boys home for hours on end, often with nothing to eat on more than one occasion) I was not even going to take going for FULL custody off the table, but I told her I would think about it, and pray about it, and talk to my attorney about it.
What started out as a cordial -- even SYRUPY-SWEET conversation from her -- suddenly turned VERRRRRRY collllllllld.
When I get a chance, I'll try to find my old journal and copy and paste something from it. But not only did her coldness quickly turn back around, but she told me later on -- when we reconciled -- that she RESPECTED the stand I took, including on the custody thing.
You did good. There is ABSOLUTELY NO REASON why you shouldn't fight for at LEAST 50/50 with your kids. Have you talked to an attorney about this yet? Preferably a good family law attorney who specializes in "men's rights" and paternal custody issues? Not sure what state you're in, but most jurisdictions these days START at "50/50," and then there has to be some pretty compelling evidence from one side or another why the needle should move much in either direction. You likely have far more rights than you even think you do (altho some states -- and even individual county's judges -- are are different from others).
