An odd thing is that I'm actually pretty light-hearted and fun with my kids. I think I use to be that way with my W as well. Over the years, my inability to help her be happy (realizing now that was never my job) has deflated that part of me.
I just called my W and said I wanted to take a day off in the next couple weeks so "we" could get some painting done. So we picked a day (next Friday) for me to take off and she and I will paint our kitchen and living room.
We use to do a lot of house projects together so hopefully this will be something we can accomplish together and enjoy. It also creates an opportunity to go out to lunch together without the kids.
I like your comment about focusing on the R rather than the behaviors. My W's behaviors really are distracting to me because they are so confusing and contradictory.
Back to focusing on my life and letting go of the distractions.
Me:45, W:45 S:16 D:13 M:22, T:25 Bomb: July 2010 Putting finances in order for "D" Continue to live in same home-separate rooms
