Some things that came up in my recovery today. I STRUGGLE to communicate. I seriously don't know how to discuss something without blowing punches. It took me all day to say this but I finally said it in the kindest way,

to H- "when you get out of work late, will you still be going to the gym after?"
his response, no, I will get a sub. it was just these past couple of days that I had to work late. It shouldn't happen often but I will get a sub next time.

APPLAUSE- APPLAUSE -- APPLAUSE --- APPLAUSE

Fellow DB- I would've said, So what happened to you not going to the gym when you get out late OR... I would've held it in and let it turn into resentment.

Just like we have highs, I also have my lows...

Tonite when H left I got really really sad. Kindof like in the beginning when he would leave... I thought I was detaching?????!!!!

M 42 H 39
T10 (-2yrs separation)
S8 D5
DD 7/30/11 (EA&PA)
Reconciled 6/2013
Separation in works 1/2017