WCW, Sounds like your h learned something along the way. Your h couldn't hear or focus on what you and others may have said to him during his crisis, but he never forgot what was said to him. He will be a good mentor for others who are suffering from the MLC craziness.
I wish your friends the best of luck.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.