I agree with the (not)drinking 1) lowers your inhibitions and increases the chance of doing/saying things you will regret 2) it's a depressant. Who needs that in the middle of this trauma?

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss