Need help with detaching and hoping to reconcile.

[lillystillinlove]

LA, That is a great idea. I will put it somewhere I can see it everyday. Thanks

What does "keeping the road home paved and smooth" mean to me.

1. Continue to work toward forgiveness. By doing this I become a better person and open my heart to what may come.
2. Allow him to work through his struggle without "pushing" and on his timeline.
3. Allow him to approach me without expectations or judgement.
4. Continue to GAL. Make the changes I need to make for my mental, emotional, and physical health. This will not only make me happier but my S will be happier too. If H comes back he will (me too) prefer the improved me and if he doesn't I need to be healthy and sane for our S. Either way everyone is happy because S will be happy. (how does that saying go? If mama's not happy, ain't nobody happy )
5. Continue to become a better mother to our S.
6. As appropriate, let H know that I am open and available to him when he's ready to try.
7. Keep H in mind when I make decisions that could effect him.
8. Respect his point of view on matters.
9. First do no harm.
10.Maintain self respect (I can't truly love if I don't like who I am and he can't love me if he doesn't respect me.)
11.Continue to respect my marriage vows.
12.Laugh more around him.
13.Work toward trust

I guess what I think it means to be is available to reconcile, don't do anything to jeopardize a reconciliation (as in having an A or hurt him purposely), continue to improve myself and my life, forgive, find happiness and joy, and love him enough let him travel his path regardless of the outcome.

This may sound a bit H-centric but the goal here for me is to reconcile, improve our relationship and save our family.