Because I know she'll eventually find out about it anyway (thus, I still gain the benefit of her being proud of my accomplishment, and "success builds attraction" and all that) . . .
This is the one thing I continue to struggle with about NC. I just don't get how she will find out about the job and school or how she will see the changes I am making if I don't talk to her and I don't see her. I have read success stories here and in other places that say that it works, and both my therapist and my pastor have encouraged NC and told me that she will know. I still struggle to wrap my head around it though. How do I get past that feeling of the whole thing not making sense?
