Oh Arsene, I should certainly have waited just a little longer, and read your advice. But I can't change the past, only learn from it.
To really boil it down, I've learned that no matter the outcome of this little experiment (even if it's overwhelmingly positive), I'm clearly not ready to continue this "experiment". Something I'll surely discuss with my IC next week.
So to answer your questions Arsene: She gave quite a few reasons for leaving: Dislike of S. FL., no friends down here, a general sense of unhappiness despite our relationship being "better than ever", needing to be alone to find herself...
Do I think moving to C. FL would help the situation: Probably. First of all, this would be the biggest 180 I could possibly make in her eyes, as I fought against the move there for a long time... I think it would go a LONG way toward showing how willing I am to FIGHT for this (A complaint she recently voiced)... But I also know that moving up there is 100% pursuing, and as she's with OM and I'm clearly not far enough down my own path to think about making such a drastic decision.
Some of my 180s:
Not initiating contact (I know, I know, recently failed this one hardcore!)
Focusing more on myself (As even she complained that I only seemed to care about her) by working out, eating better, and getting into great shape.
Letting go the need to FIX her issues by listening and NOT offering advice unless asked
Staying STRONG on my stances and not changing my mind to try to end a disagreement
GALing is a HUGE 180 for me, as I gave up a HUGE part of my life, friends, etc. to try to make her happy
Keeping the House clean (Another huge one for me, although one she'll never notice as she's hundreds of miles away... Still, it makes ME feel better, which I know is the point of these 180s)
Learn to control my emotions more (I'm overly sensitive at times, especially to criticism)
FOR SURE, the next time I'm planning on sending an email to initiate contact (which shouldn't be for quite a while after the feelings I've been having for the last 15 hours or so!), I'll post it here and let you good people help me out!
