Acc, you DO put some time into this, don't you. Wherever you finally land, you should probably write a book.
So, do you believe that attraction changes? I KNOW it does for material things. The dress that I had to have back in 1987, I wouldn't be caught dead in today. I've already bought and sold my dream car and have my eye on another. Do you think it can work the same for people?
Also, do you think that physical attraction is directly affected by knowing the person? For example, I used to find Tom Cruise very attractive. Now I just think he's weird. Yes, he's still nice looking, but not at all "attractive" to me. In your reference to Ad's H coming back and reengaging, do you think it's possible that she might just not have that attraction for him anymore, even if? Too much water under the bridge perhaps? You can't un-know what you know. There's a big difference between seeing the value of M and the family unit and commitment, etc., and finding someone attractive. And what happens when you just can't see the potential anymore?
Ad, you're right. I shouldn't have included "everyone" in my thought about when people love something. It was an incomplete thought process and I don't know where it was going. You are so deep and introspective and so effective at verbalizing your position, yet I still was feeling like your friend that you vent on that wonders why you're still with him. I also realize that you're just in a tough spot and there is no on/off switch, or "easy" button as someone else mentioned. Thanks for throwing in on my questions.
