MrsD: Glad to hear that your not worried about winning. I didnt think you were, but its something we all have to make sure I think for ourselves that this is about our spouse and our marriage and not some other factor i.e. winning, money, fear etc.
And I must say that from someone with a WAW who is worried if she files its over its incredibly cool to see you not only still working after a D, but after a D and him dating someone else, your still working on you and believing that one day you can be reconciled. That takes a ton of strength and its rare for anyone in the world today to care that much about their marriage.
Detaching is hard, its frustrating and its completely necessary. I haven't gotten there yet, but im much farther along than I was a month ago, and hopefully I get a bit closer each day, thats my goal. Keep working on you, it sounds like your completely clear on the fact that you can't even begin to work on your relationship with him until you get yourself straightened out and thats the best approach to take.
