Acc, that IS part of the memory of the love we had for each other. H's was just kind of stunted and superficial. I don't think he ever said anything he wouldn't now claim to have meant. He is VERY intentional and self-controlled.
I'll think some more about the other input and write later. Thanks all!
Oh but Acc there was one other thing you said, if he's in love with someone else I have to wait until it's over. You meant ...to see any progress in my sitch. I don't have to wait any longer than I want to wait. I love and value my family and my marriage but I have put in a lot of time and effort. If my H admitted to me that he's been in love with someone all this time, I can't see that being the turnaround moment for me where I'm willing to keep waiting indefinitely. I suspect he IS in love, with himself. (OK put that one down in the zinger file.)
On the good news front for some reason he decided to take time off work to do something fun with all of us and we're going zip lining Friday. On the bad news front he was pissy because S12 didn't act excited enough to suit him. But on the good news front I think it will be fun.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
