I dunno, Accuray. I think that feelings, including "sparks" really do come from thoughts, however quick or subconscious. I think the problems come from thinking that those things should just happen. That leads to thinking things could be more magical and then feeling deficient.
IMO, people who think that any feelings just happen are never satisfied for long because, yup, feelings come and go. Problems and solutions are in the thinking. Focusing on feelings, as if they fall out of the sky, gets nowhere and neatly avoids potential solutions.
