Hopeless optimist...

[Just A Guy]

2 votes for a card to mark the occasion. Can I get a vote from dbmod or 25ymlc?? What if she does not get me a card, I know I will be fine with that but could that cause resentment? A little guilt wouldn't be a bad thing but I don't want resentment.

Went to sleep with a sweet dreams, woke up like 4 times... Ughhhh, interview #3 today as well as our anniversary and we are spending the evening together puttin down epoxy flooring!!! Yay!!

Wife still hasnt woke up yet, intrigued to see how she handles today.. More updates later.

[Just A Guy]

Sooooooo MIL and FIL got us an anniversary card, when W brought it back into my office I thought it was from her :face palm: soooo I told her that I had decided to get her a card too and she looked at me befuddled and sorta sad and told me it wasnt from her but her parents... Tough day, now I am not sure if I should get her a card... Friggen A man...

[Just A Guy]

Anyone? Bueller?? buying the card waiting to give it to her till it feels comfortable.

[Just A Guy]

I bought two cards, one funny one a little more serious... Since I can't decide yet I figured I'd let db forums help with the decision.

1) It takes 2 to make a marriage work, and if 2 isn't enough sometimes a third martini is needed.

2) remember the thrill of it all when we first started out? Me too, but that was only the beginning.

(inside) when we fell in love we believed we'd always feel the same way day in and day out.

But then we learned that love is a choice we make again and again.

We choose each other over all the distractions, we say yes to tomorrow even when we are shaking our heads over the way today may be going.

We decide that love is what matters most. For me that means standing by the best choice I ever made. You...


So tell me DB forum. Which one would you chose?

[MrBond]

Neither.

Both are two pursuing. Even the first one, even though it's supposed to be humorous. It states "It takes 2 to make a marriage work".

Just a simple Happy Anniversary with a handwritten message inside from you saying you wanted to commemorate the day.

[Carnac]

Sandi2,
Any chance you'd look over my sitch? I've been reading alot of your old posts and I love the perspective im getting from them and wondered if I might engage you in a little banter.

[AlkalineThoughts]

My vote is for Mr. Bond's advice. It's pitch perfect IMHO.

[Just A Guy]

Went with a simple funny "thinking of you" card and just wrote that I was happy to have her and our two dogs in my life and happy 4th anniversary.

Sigh..... I wanted to say sooooooooo much more lol...

[Just A Guy]

So strange to be in our bed together on an anniversary night knowing full well we are not going to be intimate tonight for the first time in years...... Bah....

[Just A Guy]

Sleep came easy... I put my hand on my side while going to sleep to see if she would reach out and hold it... She did which made it much easier to fall asleep. Now today we are going to put the epoxy flooring down and then we have a long weekend.

I am definitely taking some time to myself this weekend too. Even though I know we are going to be going on our pressure free dates I still feel the need to take time for me.

I didn't give her the card last night. I still feel like she is blocking herself from loving me... I see all the looks my way and the gears turning but she is still searching for the "spark" and I feel the spark is created by letting ourselves go. It's not just going to appear like it did in the beginning of the relationship. GOD I want to tell her that sooooo badly.

Patience, detach, hope and lots of love....