Interpretation of MWD and DR regarding infidelity

[Arsene]

I agree with you on this KD. In my case, W told me a few weeks ago about OM and I told her that I thought is was wrong and that I disagreed with it but she told me that she didn't consider herself married anymore so in her mind, there was nothing wrong with OM.

Since then, as hard as it has been, I've been working on re-establishing a friendship with W. I've been trying to get rid of any negativity that is/was between us so that every moment we spend together is seen as positive by her. Mind you, we are separated so it's not like we share a bed or a home. I don't think I would agree to that either, Denver.

I guess I am probably still a bit too involved, and available, but since she's already asked for divorce but isn't pursuing it), and since I hadn't read DR yet (I now got it and am reading it avidly)I was just trying not to make too many waves. Once I've read DR, I'll see what i need to do.

Like you say, KD, it's like trying to get to know a stranger who might, or might not be involved with someone else.