Wendy, Your sister is so right about the silver lining. The clouds may look dark, but if you wait patiently and look within, the silver lining can be found!
I'm so happy to hear about your VA news. This is a great way to get your foot in the door. Do you have any idea when you will start the OJT?
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.