Yeah, I hope I continue with the realistic expectations.
Yesterday, we had a long conversation that went really well. I called him to just chat and touch base - although I was irritated with him not having called lately. I was actually very irritated about that.
Instead of letting lose, I just proceeded normal talking, and sharing my own experiences. He then mirrored that, and he is talking then about all kinds of things - which was really nice. I am so glad I did not let lose!! In the end, he was like, "Thanks for calling, that was a nice conversation. I enjoyed that."
Well, if he enjoys it so much, why doesn't he call me just to shoot the breeze?
I wonder when he is going to take a bit more initiative. To be fair, he did suggest this upcoming trip, so maybe I'm not being totally fair. But honestly, I feel like he is positioning it so that I am the primary pursuer in the everyday things.
Vero, I feel I've been the pursuer for a long time in our R, so I wanted to do a 180 on that. Let him come to me more kind of thing. Also, he has said, "I can't be forced to do something I don't want to. It's like Albert (my cat), I can't force him to cuddle with me. That's what I'm like. I will come to you."
But then if I don't call he never will.
You know what is wonderful - and a godsend - is that I have GAL'ed so much during the separation, and have so much to do I am plenty occupied. It really does help the old identity
