What you went through must be terrible. I just went through your thread and commented on the difficulty you're having when the thought of H and OW enters your mind.
As far as the effect on the kids, I wish our Ss didn't minimize the impact this has on our children. In their mind the kids will get over it and they are resilient but I spend all my time with D8 and I see a side of her that W doesn't see. I see her cry herself to sleep at night , I see her waking up in the night with nightmares, I see tantrums and anger, I see her grades deteriorating. W doesn't seem to think it's at all related to her leaving. I've always said I would give my life for D8 and i am now. I wish W was also willing to "give her life" for D8. This way she might have put more of an effort in saving our M. I know, I'm judging her right now but I also understand that I'm the one who pushed her this far.
In the end, though, I made myself (and my D8) a promise that I wouldn't give up on my M and my family and I don't know if/how long I can keep that promise but for the time being, I'm just happy getting through another day. Each day that I can live the changes in me is a step closer to being a better person. The kind of person anyone would be crazy to walk out on.
Freshman Class of 2012
M-49 W-42 1D-10 T 10 YEARS M 9 YEARS EA/MLC 07/2010 Separation 28/05/2012 PA confirmed 31/07/12 W Asked for D 31/07/12 D on and off the table since then
