second time newcomer, back for more

[25yearsmlc]

The action plan he gave me was to sit my wife down and tell her that if she's depressed, she needs to talk to someone (me and/or therapist) and if she doesn't want to do that, then there's medication (which he doesn't agree with)

I'm not a professional t. But ^^^that's not an action plan to me; it's a demand list, with few options.

First she has to self diagnose as depressed, AND IF SO, then she must talk to YOU AND OR HIM (and if she's not depressed??? what then??)

and since he doesn't believe in medication, that's it? Him/You or nothing?

I have a hard time believing a professional therapist recommended this and only this^^^. Are you being fair to what he said?


I told him I have given her space and she hasn't talked to me about it yet. He said she shouldn't be discussing it elsewhere than me. He said its been two weeks, and that's entirely too long to go without talking about it

Not sure what he's referring to b/c I have not read your whole thread. Normally around here, 2 weeks is nothing. But all this

still leaves you with the same problem.

So, Come here and DB (really, hire a coach from here. They are very specific and detailed and helpful and God knows, I ought to know).

Or go your way with the T.

But pretending to do both will be frustrating.