Cadet - you don't need to bother giving me my grade. I figure I did just fine.
Zig - would love to zoom off with the dogs but I've never been able to get Ashley in the car. She's always been too big, too scared and now with the hips - don't think it's an option. But it is a wonderful thought.
If I could trust the W (and if I was talking to her) I'd ask her to look after them. On past performance, trust is something I can't see.
Got time on my hands and stacks to do.
Oh and I think I figured out Ashley's problem! She tried to get on the couch earlier and her feet slipped on the tile floor. Now she's not even trying that again BUT she's happy to get on the bed. She'll be fine. I've put a heavy carpet in front of the couch. A huge one that won't move.
I have been out of town and only now have access to my computer once again. From what I have read, you are in good hands with those that are here, therefore I am not going to go back over what has already been advised. I have to go out of town tomorrow as well and won't be back until Saturday, so you know how to reach me if need be.
(((((Hugs)))))
As my Pastor told me last week, "You're gonna make it."
Someday I may even share the story behind that sentence
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~
Maybe you should visit him, or find one closer to you.
Your Saturday sounds like a lot of fun... Enjoy it... Just enjoy your day, not thinking about what she is doing, not wondering about the last conversation the two of you had, not picking apart the last text she sent... Just focus on what you are doing that day.
(((((Hugs)))))
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~
Peeps - quick question. And it's NOT to be nasty. Got over that (if ever I had it) a while ago.
My W comes back on Monday and Tuesday nights. She normally asks for food. Which I make. And she doesn't eat. Just in and out.
Comes home very late from netball (it's true I promise). Have a feeling she only does this because "friend" hasn't given her a key for her to come and go as she pleases.
The spare bedroom is kept locked during the week. No idea why. Not bothered even working that out. But at the moment I truly feel that she's getting "best of both worlds". A few of her cloths - the netball stuff are still here.
I've basically (scrub that) I HAVE dropped the rope. I'd really like to get the use of that spare bedroom back. There's a vacuum cleaner which belongs in there that's either parked in our main bedroom or the bathroom. I'd like to say "nicely" that it needs to be stored where it belongs.
I'd also like to bring up the point of her spending all the time she can with the "friend" up and surely the W would be appreciated by "friend" if W could be there every night acting as her nurse.
Even though I'm doing fine - oh yes I am folks. My W hasn't been exposed to the results of the sitch. I.e. how damn hard it is out there and maybe just maybe …… fill in the missing words yourself.
Otherwise it's going to be same as for how long. I'm sure not fixing to blink first - or is that what I'm doing with the above questions?
My W comes back on Monday and Tuesday nights. She normally asks for food. Which I make. And she doesn't eat. Just in and out.
Comes home very late from netball (it's true I promise). Have a feeling she only does this because "friend" hasn't given her a key for her to come and go as she pleases.
The spare bedroom is kept locked during the week. No idea why. Not bothered even working that out. But at the moment I truly feel that she's getting "best of both worlds". A few of her cloths - the netball stuff are still here.
What's your question?
"How sweet is the cake I'm feeding her?"
"What is the rope attached to which I can't let go?"
Why are you cooking meals for someone who does not want to eat and has locked the room in your house?
I am a simple man, and my advice would be for you to simplify things as well. Simply sit the wife down and calmly say "I've been doing some thinking, and this isn't working for me anymore." And then proceed to lay out what you are no longer willing to do (buy cigarettes and feminine products for her, cook meals for her that she doesn't even have the common courtesy to eat, have locked doors in your own home, etc., etc.)
The list should be YOUR list, not ours, but figure out the core things that are eating at your self-esteem (not to mention your manhood), and lay them out. End of conversation.
You seem to be very passive-agressive, either using humor to deflect or else coming at her with fangs bared. My advice for you would be to learn to plow the middle ground. The calm, strong, leading middle ground.
