14 Months Secret Separation: talking mediation

[BklynMom]

I understand your point about finding an honorable out if their is no hope for improvement. And certainly you can not have a marriage without a emotional connection.

In my sitch I see my H as having had a breakdown of some kind. Or like an alcoholic his on some type of manic binge, but his current behavior is inconsistant with the man I married. I see my H as sick and diseased and the only possible cure is my detachment. If I can detach and move on, my H can not blame me for his disease and their is a possiblity that he find a cure within himself.

The truth in my case is that this was never about my bad behavior, my H just used that as an excuse it was more about my H not being able to handle the stresses of his life.

Do you believe your H battling an illness??