Bond, curious...how come? I was thinking the money issue was helpful to both but maybe I"m confused.
Arsene, can YOU take all the nights? If so, do so.
But I thought this was something YOU were supposed to find a 3rd party to do for that night? I'm not clear.
In short, do not give your wife some of YOUR work,
b/c you need the income and it helps YOU and your d
and besides, let your w make it on her own or with her OM...
and she can come see you play if she wants.
Last but not least, hard as this is to hear, the 'new you" that you want her to see, is NOT nearly as noticeable as it FEELS to you.
The inside changes manifest on the outside MUCH LATER ON than we think. Plus even if they were real, and solid, which they are not,
they are not credible in such a short time period. And you backslide too, which undermines the progress so be careful of assumptions.
Only after she sees consistent change over a long enough time will she even believe they MIGHT be real
or lasting.
No amount of 180s RIGHT NOW, are going to make her believe you are totally different AND will stay that way.
She does not feel safe w/you - yet. So aside from normal boundaries you set and such, make sure she sees NONE of the old hot tempered critical you, whom she left.
Bottom line is she needs to believe marriage to you can be better/different than before.
I actually think time apart makes the changes MORE noticeable too. And she has not had time apart to miss you OR notice the new you (Not nearly enough time)
or to tire of OM....
remember,
(I know it's the 67894th time I've said it but it's true)
This is a marathon, not a sprint.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
