LOl.... that's true kml to all of the above..... yes the thought of it all is nauseating!
I've noticed that the stories are a tad different between the two of them at times, and that at times the stories change slightly. Im not trying to pin every detail down as evidence in a homocide investigation. However if you generally get the same report for 9 months, I figure with the exception of small details, its basically true.
XH is no longer speaking to me. Im being punished and given the silent treatment for standing my ground with him over a month ago on the stolen ipod/itouch issue. So attempting to speak with him is futile.
Even if we were speaking, more than likely he would become intensley defensive and blame it all on me.
I sent out two probes after the fight. One a week later. The other 2 weeks later. I did apologize for the fight and told him that I did understand his point of view better after I thought about it for a couple of days. I told him I hated fighting with him, which is the truth. Absolutely no response except his days off this week. Tomorrow is his birthday. I let him know that when we get back from D12's md appointment they can stay with him all day. Still no response.
This is how XH always was when married. He would get angry over something. Suddenly, I was getting the silent treatment and frozen out. Any attempt to resolve anything ended up in him being very rude, sarcastic and arrogant, letting me know if I hadn't had "provoked" him in some way, then he wouldn't have been mad and not spoken to me for 1 - 3 weeks.
Gee how do you co parent and problem solve with that? By walking on egg shells and taking the blame every time. Not anymore!
It's passive aggressive and a mind game as far as Im concerned. He has no desire to problem solve with me and is back to mean and nasty spewing.
So WHATEVER. I give up and go back to my stance that Im missing the part that his girlfriend's attitude is my problem. Let it fester and rot until it blows up in his face. If the kids become rude and obnoxious to her on his time, well he can handle it. He wants to shove a blended family down everyone's throat, he can go right ahead. He can also deal with his daughters and his girlfriend not liking eachother.
