So then what's your solution? Remain in the marital home together, as co-inhabitants (so they can see your changes being lived out in front of them), but no longer act fully as their spouse? (no LM, no "BFF", etc.?)
Actually, I was not upset AT ALL, and I suggested this as a very viable short-term "solution" for people. Primarily driven by the horrible economy, a LOT of married couples are opting for this, and staying in the same home while they struggle to reconcile their marriages (or even just agree to act as separated).
It was a very serious suggestion as to how to overcome the whole "how do I maintain my boundary, while still having them be near enough to me to notice my changes?" dilemma.
I'm sorry if it came across as anything personal, Jack. I HOPE that you would know me well enough by now to know that I wouldn't take that kind of swipe at you.
