I know, it makes no sense to me either, it's just the way it always has been. My feelins don't matter to him if they don't exactly mesh with his. All that is important to him is that there is zero confrontation. He considers me talking about how I feel, even though I'm sure to tell him that my feelings are no reflection on him but are merely my own, as me finding fault with him.
If your feelings didn't matter to him, then he wouldn't get upset over the confrontations. He's a guy, of course he thinks it reflects on him, he wants to fix the problem you bring to him, but when he looks at this problem he needs to fix, he feels like he's the problem. He doesn't know how to do that because it's not a solid concrete problem, it's subjective feelings.
Originally Posted By: mishka422
My fears are mine alone. I have had horrible experiences in talking to him in the past and that has caused me to clam up entirely. We talk about all sorts of other things, just not feelings.
The talks you have had since the reconciliation have been much better than in the past it seems? I also agree that trying another method like e-mail or a letter might help take some of the immediate pressure off him and might get a better reaction.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
