Last night when I read this - I wanted to tell you to write it down. SO I totally agree with Kat. But this is LONG overdue.
This is how I lived for many many years - afraid to talk to ex. Afraid of the fighting. Afraid of the silent treatment. Afraid he might leave. Afraid of his temper.
I would NEVER live like then. And only when you're away from it do you realize how totally wrong it is for you. And for your son.
When you have lived without that for a while - you can never go back.
Ideally - you would have a mediator, a counsellor to talk with both of you. So you could both say what you need to say. Would he ever consider that?
If not - write it down. Let him know what you want. I don't like ultimatums but maybe you need to set goals in your own mind about how much you will accept and how soon you want these changes.
I think he needs to man up or move out. And when he does (or if by some miracle he agrees and does the work to man up) - you will be a new girl. And wonder why it took you so long.
Thinking of you. Wanting to hear that you've done it. Don't lose sight of your goal.
