I let her know that no matter what it looked like, the fact that I'm NOT calling and texting and emailing every day IS my fight. It's probably the hardest thing i've ever had to do, but in order to respect her need for time and space for self-discovery (things she very specifically pointed out before she left) I felt it was only fair to give her the space that she asked for and demanded when moving hundreds of miles away.
Alkaline: Its good that you made that clear to her. Its exactly what I did myself. My wife asked me for time and space and I have given it to her in spades. But I made sure early on to let her know that I would love to have conversations with her, go to counseling with her, text with her, whatever it may be, but that she would have to be the one to initiate those things because at least for now im going to RESPECT her wishes for time and space.
Its really test #1 in my mind when your spouse asks you for some time and space do you give it to them. If you fail that then why would they trust that you'll be able to do anything else they may need you to do to repair the relationship. Im sure thats not 100% true in every situation, but at least in mine im positive thats what it was about b/c I had failed to give her space in the past when she asked for it.
